Painful Muscle Cramps During Sex—occasionally, but not every time.
It took me years to find the causative DHS (Dirks Hamer Syndrome) for this annoying SBS (Special Biological Program). But once I recognized the DHS, it resolved itself.
I am now in my early 50s, right-handed, and the father of two boys. The first child was planned, but not the second. The news that my wife was pregnant again (for the second time) shocked me quite a bit, especially since a second child was unimaginable in our life situation back then.
For several years now, it has happened occasionally—though not every time—that when I fulfill my marital duties, a muscle about the size of a hand on my right thigh, slightly outside the groin, starts cramping very painfully after a few minutes. And it doesn’t matter which position we’re in. Whether I’m on top or below makes no difference. I then can only lie flat on my back and wait until the muscle cramp subsides after some time.
A muscle cramp is the conflict-resolved phase of a motor conflict involving striated muscles—a conflict of “not being able to hold on or escape.” So, sex with my wife is the track for me, but I don’t react with cramps every time, and avoiding the track permanently isn’t an option either.
Chronologically, these muscle cramps first appeared around the time my wife became pregnant for the second time, and that news had shocked me deeply. So, for years, I suspected that the fear of my wife getting pregnant again was the track. My body was trying to warn me—or better yet, to keep me from having sex altogether. “Careful, don’t let her get pregnant again,” because you can never be completely sure!
How was I supposed to resolve this DHS? It wasn’t possible as long as my wife was ovulating and could theoretically get pregnant—and she still had 15 years until menopause. For years, this was a very annoying symptom that sometimes, but not always, appeared, interrupting our sexual intimacy unexpectedly and painfully. An unsolvable problem. So, you learn to live with things you can’t change.
However, over time, our life situation changed. The kids grew older and now spend their days at school and kindergarten. My wife and I have more free time together at home. I noticed that I got these muscle cramps much less often. Or rather, I realized that I only got muscle cramps during sex with my wife when the kids were also at home. But when we were alone, this problem never occurred. And with this realization, the original conflict occurred to me.
Years ago, when our older son was about seven, I was having sex with my wife. We had closed the door and tried to be quiet, but I had a strange feeling. I went to the door, opened it, and there stood our son with big ears, listening. That was my DHS moment.
Thanks to Dr. Hamer, we know what it means—or what it can cause—when a child catches their parents having sex or even just eavesdrops. For children, these are unsolvable territorial conflicts that can affect them and their sex lives for the rest of their lives. Or, children may react to overhearing their parents with hearing conflicts.
All parents instinctively close the bedroom door, especially if they know GHK (Germanische Heilkunde). So, my body was trying to warn me—or, more effectively, to prevent me from having sex—because my son might be standing outside the door again, listening.
Tellingly, it’s precisely the muscle that’s most engaged during the typical movement, naturally on my partner side.
My body was telling me: “Leave your wife alone—the kids are home and could be listening.”
So, my fear wasn’t, as I originally thought, that my wife might get pregnant again. My fear was that our children might eavesdrop and suffer sexual territorial conflicts.
Once I became aware of the DHS—the conflict with the child listening outside the bedroom door—it became obvious. Every time we had sex at night while the kids were sleeping in the next room, we were interrupted after a few minutes by a painful muscle cramp. But when we were home alone, there were no muscle cramps—not a single time.
Of course, understanding the cause and effect brings relief. It took me years to correctly identify this DHS in my own body. But without understanding Germanische Heilkunde, such a conflict can never be found—and the same goes for many conflicts. Even the best therapist can’t find our conflicts for us; only we can do that, provided we’ve learned and truly understood how our bodies function.
So, learn Germanische Heilkunde while you’re still healthy—because no doctor or therapist was present during our conflicts. Only we ourselves can find and resolve them—or otherwise suffer chronically.
Everyone decides their own fate.